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troubled mind
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My husband's first exposure to being shunned by family ......
by troubled mind infriday we were in the grocery store shopping .both of us were in a very good mood because our son was coming home for a visit ,and we were planning on some fun activities .
then around the end of the aisle comes by husbands sister in law ( she is married to his step brother that is an elder) we nearly bump into her literally we are that close ...so i say ," oh hi ***** !
" she would not even look at us and the expression on her face gave me chills ..pure contempt .
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I read him stuff from here all the time ,but as far as I know he has not joined .
I think it would do him a world of good though !
Just a few months ago he was still under the impression that the Elders still cared for us ,and their sheparding call was because they really wanted to help me ........
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Do you feel sorry for the family members who shun you?
by SweetBabyCheezits inas each instance of shunning happens to me, it seems even more ridiculous than the last.. this weekend i took our kids to the park - wife opted out, understandably - and we let our daughter call my parents to inform them we'd be there.
this was my first time in the presence of my parents since our df announcement two weeks ago.. my mom and dad were 10-20 feet away much of the time and yet they never said a greeting or.. well anything.
at one point my daughter, who is aware of the shunning, mistakenly thought my mom called my name and shouted excitedly, "mawmaw, were you talking to daddy??
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I wish you would just go up to your Mom at the park one day and give her a big hug and tell her ," Mom let's cut out this nonsense ...just because I no longer want to be a witness does not mean I no longer want you to be my Mom " , "Please don't let a policy kill your natural affection for our family ,Mom"...
I have never understood how witnesses believe the dfging policy is a discipline meant to bring someone to their senses .... If after let's say a year the person still does not want to come back into the fold then for crying out loud MOVE on .Just treat them as an unbeliever , BUT why in the world destroy the family over it ?????
I saw my Mom go through the inner turmoil of trying to shun her son for 40 some years ....it was the stupidest thing I have ever witnessed ....
Growing up seeing that made me know for a fact I WOULD NEVER TREAT ONE OF MY OWN KIDS THAT WAY .
I also saw what pain my mother in law went through when her youngest son was df'd . She would call and cry to me for hours over not being able to talk to him anymore . He disappeared for several years in a way to say screw you to his parents for shunning him . When he finally came back to the area they decided to at least see him once a year .... He is now in his 30's and has three children ......they still only see him once a year .
Before I left I honestly told her how stupid I thought all that was here she is doing something she really does not want to do ,but only because she is being tolod to do it .......I told her IT IS YOUR CHOICE ! You are choosing to shun your son and you can CHOOSE NOT to shun him just as easily ! I think deep down she knows it is all BS ,but she is afraid to rock the boat ....
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My husband's first exposure to being shunned by family ......
by troubled mind infriday we were in the grocery store shopping .both of us were in a very good mood because our son was coming home for a visit ,and we were planning on some fun activities .
then around the end of the aisle comes by husbands sister in law ( she is married to his step brother that is an elder) we nearly bump into her literally we are that close ...so i say ," oh hi ***** !
" she would not even look at us and the expression on her face gave me chills ..pure contempt .
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I could tell it has been eating at him all weekend . It has just taken him a lot longer for it to really sink in that these people really do not love him ......
He see's the hypocrisy and knows the witnesses can be harsh ,he just never personally had it turned towards him . He works with some JW's and at work they still at least say hello to him or deal with him on work related matters . Slowly the personal interactions have cooled off ,but never has he had someone totally shun him as if he did not exisit . Especially coming from a family member will be a huge impact on him .
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My husband's first exposure to being shunned by family ......
by troubled mind infriday we were in the grocery store shopping .both of us were in a very good mood because our son was coming home for a visit ,and we were planning on some fun activities .
then around the end of the aisle comes by husbands sister in law ( she is married to his step brother that is an elder) we nearly bump into her literally we are that close ...so i say ," oh hi ***** !
" she would not even look at us and the expression on her face gave me chills ..pure contempt .
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troubled mind
Friday we were in the grocery store shopping .Both of us were in a very good mood because our son was coming home for a visit ,and we were planning on some fun activities . Then around the end of the aisle comes by husbands sister in law ( she is married to his step brother that is an Elder) We nearly bump into her literally we are that close ...so I say ," OH HI ***** !" She would not even look at us and the expression on her face gave me chills ..pure contempt .
Now I am use to the witnesses acting this way towards me ( I am the evil one ) , but usually people are nice to my mate . This is the first time he has had to endure shunning ,and I think it hit him like a ton of bricks . The joy drained from his face in that instant . I am sure he was totally taken off guard by her behavior . I joked around with him and acted like it was no big deal ,but for him I am sure it was a big deal .
Made me feel so sorry for him . I feel a tinge of guilt since it is because of me he is now going to suffer these kinds of humiliations .....however I continue to tell myself he is an adult and is free to make his choices .....his lack of choosing is a choice too .
The mood was lightened up a bit a few aisles over when another JW from the hall walks by us......This time when I say 'HEllO' the JW is cheery , bubbly and returns the hello with no hesitation , as she grabs a big bottle of booze and a six pack of beer ....... her only purchases . We just turned to each other and laughed .....guess she is getting by anyway she can .
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The last pic was my son crux
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Every publisher must pay for assembly costs???
by sacolton injust saw this posted on watchtower uncensored .... .
want to hear the latest debacle?
the po in my mom's congregation told them that at the next 1-day-assembly it will be the responsibility of every publisher to put 3 in the box towards the running costs at the assembly hall.
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One day have been around a while ...they are called SPECIAL day assemblies
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My Story
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troubled mind
kp138 , Welcome to the forum ,
I am so sorry to hear of the pain your Father must have been going through to take his own life . For many older ones there comes a point they realize what they have believed for so long is just not all it is cracked up to be. You can not blame yourself .....I think he just really believed the Witness rheoric that the system would end before he aged ,and he was caught unprepared .
I too grew up as a JW raised on the horror stories of Nazi persecution and then the Malawi massacres .....I suffered panic attacks ,anxiety and depression for years . Finding this forum and reading similar stories as my own has helped me so much .I am not alone ,and neither are you ! If you have not read it yet I highly suggest reading Crisis of Conscience . That book really helped me let go of any residual guilt or lingering questions about the Witnesses.
Glad you shared your story .